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That “Back to School” feeling…

Back to schoolI love that Back to School feeling! 


I love waking up and the air feels crisp. I love the leaves turning and I really love new stationery. 

Back to School is my favourite time of year. It feels so full of possibilities. My year runs September to August, as I’m sure many of yours do. It doesn’t matter how hard I try to stop using an academic diary I just can’t make January to December feel right.

I know that some of you are already back at school and I know that some won’t start back until next week but I wanted to say “Happy New Year” and I hope that this year brings you excited children, eager to learn and an easy sense of calm and contentment.

I know many of you are now thinking, “She’s mad isn’t she, completely mad, and totally out of touch with reality”.

Well, no, I’m not, I’m just a believer in looking for the positives and hoping for the best. I spent all my teaching career in inner city schools; Bradford, Leeds, Stoke on Trent, Wolverhampton, believe me when I say that I know that many of you can only dream of a calm and content classroom full of keen and enthusiastic students.

Don’t stop believing that it can be a reality though.

So how can you create a calm and focused environment?

  • Don’t make the walls of your classroom too busy. It can be overwhelming for children who struggle with visual sensitivity and the children don’t notice most of it any way, it just becomes over stimulating wallpaper.
  • Do work some relaxation into your daily routine. Maybe you do three deep breaths before you do the register every morning and after lunchtime. Perhaps you do some simple yoga stretches to wake up their bodies first thing on a morning. Whatever works for you. Little and often can make a HUGE difference.
  • Lead by example. Children love to copy and whether consciously or unconsciously they will copy you. If you are calm and serene, they will grow more calm, if you are always shouting the volume in your classroom will grow, if you eat sensibly, they will eat more healthily too. Give it a try, you might be surprised.
  • Don’t expect too much of them. They are children. Whatever age range you teach, whatever country you are in you are teaching little people. They are all individuals with their own personalities and their own needs. Sometimes they will have bad days. Don’t you? Try to be understanding. Yes I know that bad days snowball in classrooms and you can’t let some behaviour just pass as you might in your own home, but try to distract and encourage rather than shouting and reprimanding.
  • Get some professional help. Whether you download my free ebook, sign up your school to my Calmer Classrooms with Mojo Programme or invite me to visit your school I can help you create a calmer classroom, whatever your budget.

I know you are all busy people so I will just finish by wishing you all the very best of look for the coming academic year and I look forward to sharing the ride with you all.

Despicable Me mindfulness lesson plan

Despicable Me

Despicable Me Mindfulness Lesson Plan

I am not even going to pretend that these adorable, family films aren’t my favourite children’s films ever. They absolutely are! We have been at the cinema on opening night for the last two films. I am regularly found watching them over again at home. The minions have to be among the most loveable creatures ever imagined and don’t even get me started on Agnes and her fluffy unicorn.

My husband is not a fan of children’s films. Even he insists that these films are watched regularly and if they are being shown on the television you can pretty much guarantee that we will be watching them.

They make you laugh out loud, they make you cry and they make you gasp. What more could you ask for?

Well, how about a carefully crafted mindfulness and relaxation lesson plan? You can enjoy the spirit of the Despicable Me films in an imagined plot with all your favourite characters. Your class will be introduced to simple mindfulness techniques and yoga poses.  They will learn to control their emotions, anxiety and their bodies. It is a fun but ultimately calming lesson which I know your class will love.

Better still it is completely free! Simple click the link below to download your copy right now.

Despicable Me

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Reflections

Reflections

Reflections

Taking time to reflect on your achievements and progress is something very few of us take time to do. Yet it is such an important process. 

It is so easy to keep trudging forward. Always looking at the next task to be completed. The next chore to be done. Without ever stopping to congratulate ourselves on the amazing progress we have already made.

We convince ourselves that we haven’t learnt anything or made any real progress with a particular project or student. When the reality is, if we stop to take the time to really look and think the reality is very different.

At this time of year most teachers are wrapping things up, preparing for our next class, perhaps getting our heads round a change of year group or moving classroom. We go through our class’s books and congratulate them on the improvement in their writing, spelling, or how much more work they are managing to produce in a lesson. How many of us also take the time to think “I had a hand in that improvement”?

Many teachers aren’t just juggling work commitments they are also juggling partners, children, caring for parents, some are even having to run businesses alongside their teaching career to pay the bills. How often do you stop and congratulate yourself for doing an amazing job being there for your own family as well as supporting your class?

Do you take the time to thank the people who make it possible in a really meaningful way?

Perhaps your parents collect your kids from school when you have to work late or your partner uses his flexitime to be able to attend your child’s class assembly because you can’t make it. Have you really expressed your gratitude to them?

A lot happens in an academic year.

Children bloom.

Confidence grows.

New skills are learned.

Attitudes change.

Handwriting improves.

Times tables are learned.

Books are read.

Ball skills develop.

…the list is never-ending.

But what about you?

How have you grown?

What have you learned?

What skills have you developed?

Which children have you really made an impact on?

 

Often as teachers we don’t receive the thanks we deserve, but just because it isn’t spoken doesn’t mean it isn’t felt.

What would your progress report say this year?

Have you excelled at something?

What improvements could you make next year?

Take time to reflect and give yourself the credit you would give a child in your class for all your hard work and the amazing achievements this year.

Congratulations!

You survived: fidget spinners, bottle flipping, Jojo bows, fidget cubes… and you lived to tell the tale. I wonder what crazes next year will bring? Let’s hope whatever they are, that they don’t result in my son getting a black eye like the bottle flipping did!

What do you make a priority in your life?

What do you make a priority in your life?

What are your priorities?

I’m sure I’m not alone in having different priorities for different parts of my life.

Work Priorities

Deadlines

Projects to complete

Accounts

Daily emails which have to be scheduled

Creating new resources…

Family Priorities

Spending time with the children and my hubby

Making sure we make time to visit my family in Yorkshire

Spending time with my in laws

Making sure the kids are growing into compassionate and independent young people…

House Priorities

Decorating my daughter’s bedroom

Painting the bathroom…

 

You get the idea.

 

I’m sitting here typing and feeling a little frustrated with myself.

What came first?

Work!

Working in the gardenNow I can try to tell myself that that’s because I’m working now so that’s the mode my brain is in. But the reality is that during the week my priorities do tend to revolve around work, particularly during the day. My diary is carefully colour coded to make it easy to see who needs to be where and what blocks of time I have to fit everything else into. I do make sure I take time for myself too.

Treating myself while getting work is often my compromise. (I’m writing this in the garden – my happy place on a sunny day. It’s my reward for getting my accounts and tax return completed this morning). 

Getting plenty of sleep, is vital otherwise I know I don’t function as efficiently as I should. Making sure I eat well, for the most part, because I know that I feel more tired and have less energy if I do. Laughing, a lot and singing a lot and getting outside in fresh air and nature every opportunity I get all help me to feel like my needs are being met.

Life gets busy!

Sometimes life get so busy. The last few months I have had four really big projects to complete (two are still ongoing!) and I have had to prioritise; I haven’t written as many blogs, I haven’t created as many new lesson plans and I haven’t been on social media as much as usual.

I needed to make sure that I got my priorities right.

For me, that meant:

  • not hurting my body by running on adrenaline by trying to be everything to every one.
  • making sure that my additional work commitments impacted on my family as little as possible
  • looking after my health by eating and sleeping properly
  • breaking everything down into bite sized manageable pieces.

It’s amazing how breaking things down makes them feel more manageable.

What I suggest is that you find something little, that you can do every day, which you make a priority to help you feel happy.

All too often we prioritise work, family, housework… and forget to prioritise ourselves and our happiness.

A small shift in your priorities can have a huge impact on your life.

If you know anything about the Law of Attraction, you will know that what we focus on grows. If we are always focusing on how much work we have and how little time, then guess what we will attract? When you focus on how much time you have for yourself and how happy you are with your life, you will have more time and grow in happiness every day.

Maybe make your priority a gratitude practice? Creating a gratitude journal is a wonderful thing to do to help you to focus on the positives. There are lots of ideas for introducing gratitude into your classroom in my Gratitude blog.

Is your priority is getting fit and you want to find time to go for a run every week, or go to the gym twice a week?

Perhaps you love baking and you want to find more time to bake?

What is stopping you from making time?

If it is really important to you, make it a priority and do it. You might not get the ironing done or the dusting may wait a few days. The world will not stop spinning because you took time to make yourself a priority.

What are you going to make a priority this week?

If you want to make learning mindfulness in an accessible and pressure free context a priority find out more about the all new “and breathe…” daily programme. It is simply a friendly and informative daily email. It helps you learn mindfulness techniques and helps you stay stress free and calm every day.

I’m ready to prioritise myself and my mental health!

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A New Rhyme and Sign Adventure – Book Review

 

Rhyme and SignOne of my favourite things about the work I do is getting sent beautiful books to review. I love books but I love them even more when they have been created with help from two of my friends.

A few years ago my husband Ian and I helped Shelley Ensor to create a simple guided meditation to include in her book: “Signing Hands: NurseryRhyme and Sign!” so I was over joyed when she asked me to review her new book At The Bottom of My Garden. A ‘Rhyme and Sign’ Adventure with British Sign Language (BSL, Baby Signing) (Rhyme and Sign Adventures).

The new book is a beautiful story about all the creatures who live in the garden. Every page has the relevant signs either down the side or along the bottom and the story is a beautiful rhythmic, repetitive prose, perfect for younger children. 

I am a big believer that everyone should be able to sign a little, it is such a wonderful life skill. I learned the basics when I was a Girl Guide but if beautiful books like this are introduced and just the odd word taught almost incidentally to children maybe they will retain little bits?

At the Bottom of My GardenThis is a perfect book for Key Stage 1, EYFS and preschool age. They would all love the story and I’m sure be fascinated by the signs too. The language and text is easy to read and the words are familiar whilst still extending the children’s vocabulary.

One of the authors, Shelley Ensor is the creator of Little Signers Club, a wonderful company providing baby signing classes in the UK, so she really knows her rhyming and signing.

Well done Sue Searle and Shelley Ensor for creating a wonderfully accessible and beautifully crafted story. The illustrations by Chris Hammond and Cath Smith are stunning and I can’t resist giving my friend Libby Hill a mention for writing a lovely foreword.

 

Libby is a very well respected Consultant Speech and Language Therapist and I would like to end by sharing what she wrote:

“This is a lovely story in its own right but it’s actually much more than that. There’s lots of rhyme and repetition which are important for supporting language learning and developing vocabulary – plus the addition of the signs which can help enhance early literacy and learning. You don’t need any signing experience to be able to use this book straight away. It’s an accessible and enjoyable tale for all ages from babies to grandparents. They’ll all love to join in!”

 

If you would like to order either of the books mentioned in this review please click the links below. (These are affiliate links but I never endorse products unless I have used them and really believe in them)

Stress – A crisis of epic proportions

Stress - the modern plagueTwo days ago I had my first article published in the TES. For the last two days I have been inundated by messages from teachers telling me their stories and thanking me for letting them know that they are not alone.

There is a huge mental health crisis, not just our schools but our hospitals, our universities, among our children, bankers, lawyers… everyone is being affected.

Yesterday we were told that Diane Abbott, the Shadow Home Secretary, was being replaced due to a period of ill health. We haven’t been told officially that it is stress related but whatever you think about her policies (and this isn’t a political post), there are two things that I find very upsetting about this news.

The first is that we have become a society who, for reasons unknown to me, seem to think that anyone who is in the public eye is fair sport and ceases to become a person. Diane Abbott has been trolled online for weeks. Some of the comments about her after her recent interview with Nick Ferrari were absolutely appalling. No one deserves to be treated in such an inhumane way.

Secondly, I fear that she is just the latest in a long list of people, passionate about their work, to be toppled by stress. When we are under stress one of the first things that happens is that our prefrontal cortex shuts down. This is the part of our brains which controls reasoning and rational thought. It helps us retain facts for exams and is pretty much the part that we rely on most to help us look like intelligent creatures. When this shuts down, due to stress and anxiety, we struggle to retain facts and cannot create a rational argument.

Whether Diane Abbott is indeed off with stress or whether she has other underlying health issues will no doubt come out over the next few weeks but one thing that is for sure, she was under a lot of pressure during the interviews she has given recently and by vilifying her for being unable to form a coherent argument the public have only added to her problems.

I don’t know Diane Abbott. I don’t know much about her at all. But I recognise symptoms when I see them. I do know many teachers, nurses and other valuable professionals, who are all in the same mental state that I believe Diane Abbott to be in. They can’t think straight. They can’t eat. Can’t sleep. They are snapping a their children and not able to function about the basic necessities.

Something has to change, and quickly

We are killing the beating heart of our country by not supporting each other when we’re in need. When we see someone struggling and it affects our life our reaction seems to be “how dare you make my life more difficult” not, “how can I help you?”. We need to stop aiming for imaginary ideas of what the perfect life is and start learning to enjoy the life we have.

We need to start caring again. Really caring about each other. But more than that, about our neighbours, random people in the street, the environment, people in other countries… We have to care deeply to reverse the crisis that is happening in the world. We have seen amazing kindness and compassion in the wake of the terrorist attacks in Manchester and London recently. That is what we need to start offering to our nurses, our doctors and even our politicians. There is no point behaving so valiantly when we have devastating events but ignoring the ongoing pain in our society. That’s like a murderer convincing himself he’s a good person because he goes to church on Sunday. We have to unite and be consistent. Learn to see the signs of stress. When you see them, reach out your hand and offer help.

As Martin Luther King, Jr said:

“Darkness cannot drive out darkness; only light can do that. Hate cannot drive out hate; only love can do that.”

Please, be the light.

Teachers’ Mental Health – My TES Article

TesWhen I was asked to write an article for the TES about my experiences with anxiety and depression as a teacher and the more general issue of teachers’ mental health, I was delighted. If you are a teacher reading this I hope that you won’t be able to identify with it but unfortunately it is a far too familiar tale.
Something has to change but unfortunately public perception still seems to be that teachers work 9am-3pm and have such long holidays that it must be a dream of a job. We have to start raising awareness and shouting about the conditions our teachers are working in, the impact our current education system is having on our children and the horror that is the upcoming budget cuts. Hopefully the more we share our experiences the more chance there is something will listen and make the changes so desperately needed in schools.

TES Article: 

“Statistics about female primary teachers being more likely to commit suicide come as no surprise to this former teacher

When I recently read that female primary school teachers are 42 per cent more likely to commit suicide than the average woman, it made me angry but did not come as a surprise.

I am a very sensitive person. This seems to be a negative in society these days, but I know that it is my biggest asset. I care when children are upset and I care when colleagues are stressed.

But being a sensitive person made it almost impossible for me to teach. I was a good teacher and I enjoyed my job, but I would also regularly lie awake at night worrying if my best was good enough.

At times, the anxiety was crippling. Senior management would often criticise the one thing out of a hundred that I hadn’t managed to do. Parents didn’t notice the 29 kids I had managed to hear read that week, but were angry because I hadn’t had a chance to hear their child.

And it wasn’t only me. I would look around at my colleagues and see them drowning in paperwork, with little or no energy left for forming meaningful relationships. I heard teachers ask for help because they were waking up every morning feeling unable to face another day.”

Read the full article.

Mindful Living in the Big City

Mindful Living in the Big CityMindfulness is everywhere at the moment. Nowhere more so than at the Mindful Living Show, at the Business Design Centre in Islington, this weekend.

This was the first Mindful Living Show and it was a triumph. There were wonderful speakers, inspiring workshops and tempting stalls. Having been to many Mind Body Spirit shows over the years I was a little apprehensive because all too often there is a tense and desperate energy which was uncomfortable. Here there was an interesting range of organisations and companies, promoting their services, workshops and products.

It was a long day, I was up just before 5am and we didn’t arrive home until almost midnight. It was worth it to spend time with friends and colleagues and to meet all the lovely people who were at the show.

My Fan Girl Moment

Of course the real highlight, was seeing Ruby Wax speaking. She was so popular that even though we were early to the session we had to stand. It was absolutely worth it. If you haven’t read her latest book Ruby Wax – A Mindfulness Guide for the Frazzled I highly recommend it. It is a wonderfully accessible and funny book. Ruby explains the science behind mindfulness. She even includes an 8 week course set out in the middle pages.

Signed BookI was thrilled to have chance to speak to Ruby after her talk and get my book signed too. I am a total bibliophile so getting signed copies of my favourite books is such a treat.

We decided to leave the venue for lunch.  We had a wonderful meal just round the corner before we returned for more wonderful talks. I particularly enjoyed Katie Sheen‘s talk on mindful eating. Mark Brown’s introduction to Street Wisdom, an intriguing new movement which I intend to try soon, was also a highlight. My only criticism was that there were so many wonderful things to do that I couldn’t get to all of them. The interactive workshops looked amazing but you can’t do everything. Too much wonderful content isn’t a bad criticism of an event though! I just wish I could have stayed for the Saturday. Family commitments meant I could only attend on Friday, maybe next year.

I’m sure next year there will be even more to see and experience.

All in all it was a wonderful day. I am delighted to hear on the grapevine that they are already planning next years’ event. Who knows maybe I’ll be speaking or exhibiting next year?

If you are interested in the increasing popularity of mindfulness going to events like this and speaking to the people who really know their subject is a great starting point.

 

 

 

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Beauty and the Beast – A mindfulness lesson plan

Beauty and the Beast Mindfulness Lesson PlanTale as old as time…

This magical fairy story has been delighting children and adults alike for centuries. The story of a young girl who loves books and learns to fall for a beast of a prince may not be the perfect story for our modern feminist daughters but it isn’t far off in my opinion.

Beauty and the Beast has been my favourite fairy tale for as long as I can remember. The symbolism of the beastly behaviour of the prince causing him to be tranformed physically into a beast is wonderful. Beauty (Belle in the Disney version) is brave, outspoken and self assured. She loves reading, long before women were allowed to attend school or better themselves in any way, is inspiring. Imagine how excited I was when I learned they were remaking it! Not just any remake but a remake with live action and Emma Watson – who I love!

My daughter was desperate to see it, my sister contacted me as soon as she heard to make me promise we wouldn’t watch it without her, and we started praying that they wouldn’t spoil the original magic.

I was 15 when the Disney cartoon was released and I’m not afraid to say that I LOVED it! I had posters, the soundtrack on my CD player and I even dressed like Belle for a while (no I’m not sharing any photos!).

Well, we were not disappointed. We all felt that the new film paid homage to the original animation, without being a replica, and added a little depth and maturity.

I was so relieved.

So, what is so special about the story of Beauty and the Beast?

I love that Belle sees through the Beast’s appearance to the person within. He has learned his lessons about not judging people by their outward appearance. He has learned to be patient, tolerant, kind.

There are worse role models for our children, that’s for sure.

My Beauty and the Beast lesson plan combines some mindfulness techniques and breathing strategies with simple yoga to create a magical lesson. It explores both our senses and our bodies in a calm and gentle way. Children love taking time to explore sounds, smells, sights and tastes as part of this magical story. It is a wonderful way to introduce mindfulness to even the youngest of children.

Get a copy of the lesson plan or it is available as part of my Key Stage 1 Literacy Mindfulness Pack.

To see my full range of mindfulness and relaxation resources visit my shop.

 

 

 

No one is Perfect!

AnxietyNo one is perfect. We hear it all the time but do we really believe it is ok to be less than perfect?

This is one of the hardest blogs I have ever written, but I know I have to write it. Partly because it is a therapeutic must, but mostly because I know that many of you reading it need to read what it will contain.

So what is this challenging subject?

Well, I have been struggling with anxiety recently.

I know what some of you will be thinking:

“Well, she should know better shouldn’t she?”

And, yes I do. I have been applying all the things I advocate for everyone else; breathing techniques, keeping up with my meditation and mindfulness, giving myself time to take stock, eating well, resting… you name it I have done it.

I promise.

So “what’s the problem?” I hear you cry.

Well, despite all this there have been times when I have been completely overwhelmed.

I have cried a lot. Hugged a lot. Slept a lot. For a little while I even ate chocolate (pure poison for someone who is not only dairy intolerant but also chocolate intolerant!).

Here’s the thing though. I am not perfect. No-one is.

Sometimes I want to be though and therein lies the problem. I want to be able to do everything, help everyone, be kind to everyone and be as successful as possible at everything I do.

Who doesn’t?

So when I have a difficult time personally, which I have the last few months, I feel overwhelmed like everyone else at times. I lost my beloved Grandma, family members have been struggling, and of course I have been caring for the world and forgetting me. But that I can manage. I have spent years doing it.

Until I hit a bump in the road.

This time that bump was a verbal attack which knocked me off my axis.

It’s not like it has never happened before, but I rarely upset people, I am generally accommodating and whilst not often a push over, I tend go out of my way to be kind and helpful and make life as pleasant as possible for everyone. Sometimes I guess you just have to be reminded that other people don’t have the same philosophy as you though.

So, I spent a few days getting myself in a tiz. Wondering if I should have handled things differently, then I had a lovely holiday with my children. When I returned I realised that being back was triggering the same emotional responses I had left.

So what can you do if you feel like this?

  • Well, I have spent a couple of days really tuning in to my inner wisdom. Is this my issue? Can I change anything?
  • I have made sure my diet is supporting my mental health; reduced my sugar intake to virtually zero and eaten lots of fresh fruit and veg and I don’t drink alcohol or coffee anyway, but I have reduced my tea intake.
  • I have been doing my mindful breathing exercises; belly breathing and 7/11 breathing I find to be the most helpful.
  • I have been getting outside; fresh air and connecting with nature, especially in this beautiful sunshine, are so healing.
  • I have been spending lots of time with loved ones. Cuddles, love and feeling supported are so important.
  • I have talked about it. Not to everyone but I rang my parents for a chat, spoke to my sister, my in laws and of course my amazing husband. One of the biggest messages of the “Heads Together” campaign which the young royals are so involved with, is the importance of talking to loved ones and not bottling things up. This has always been my approach, I believe whole heartedly that a problem shared is a problem halved.
  • I gave myself permission to be human.

Every so often I thought “I shouldn’t be going through this , I’m supposed to help others through this”. That perfection monkey crept in.

This is ridiculous. I am human. Not just that, I’m a human who struggled with anxiety all through my late teens and twenties. Anxiety was part of the reason that I got into mindfulness and natural healing in the first place.

How could I expect to just miraculously heal and never have this silent monster raise its head again?

The difference between this short attack and the anxiety of my twenties was that I acknowledged it. I didn’t try to paper over the cracks. I sat in the cracks, explored why I was feeling this way and helped myself heal. I asked for help from friends who are therapists and I allowed myself to be imperfect.

I could easily hide this time if I wanted to. I am more than capable of pretending that I’m ok. Of getting through days with loved ones and even visits to schools. It has been less than a month, I could easily conceal my true emotions on social media, and let’s be honest, very few of you are likely to bump into me doing the weekly food shop!

But one of the things that is most important to me is raising awareness of depression, anxiety and mental health issues.  Spreading the word that it can happen to anyone, at any time. So, how am I being true to my message if I hide away under my duvet while posting about sunshine and flowers online?

So, I am stepping into the light and shouting loud and proud about my recent blip in the hope that it will help someone to realise that it’s ok to be human. It’s ok to stand up and say “I need help”. Anxiety and depression are not about being weak, they are about being strong for too long.

At the moment I seem to have things back under control. I am using all the strategies I mentioned and I feel wonderful. But I am not naïve, I know that this may be a life long struggle. I am working hard to rewire my brain. To stop my need to be perfect. To release my instinct to worry about everyone all the time. But it’s a journey.

Anyone who says they never have a bad day is either so numb that they are unaware of their emotions or isn’t telling the truth.

If you are struggling with anxiety or depression. If you are one of the thousands of people who dreads Mondays, who is wondering whether you will have the strength to get through the week.

Please, please talk to someone.

Talk to me! 

Most of you reading this will have heard everything you have just read before. Most of you will have felt the way I have been feeling. The reason I wanted to write this and be so public about this blip is to let you know that will all the strategies in the world. All the knowledge in the world. Sometimes things still go wrong.

I can honestly say I haven’t had an anxiety attack since I was 24 years old. I’m now 40 and with so much more understanding of mental health issues and how to ease them. Please don’t be fooled into thinking that I have had an easy few years, because that really isn’t the case. It isn’t that life has been easy and this is the first time I have had to deal with anything negative. Believe me I have been the subject of trolls online, I nearly lost my daughter, I was diagnosed with a life altering illness, I have lost loved ones, I have been through all the usual stresses everyone goes through.

The reality is, I have been through much tougher times than I am going through at the moment. The scale of mental health struggles isn’t necessarily relative to the size of the issue. So if you are feeling like you shouldn’t be feeling the way you are because other people are going through much bigger/more challenging times, that’s just not how it works.

I can tell I’m starting to waffle now, but I would love to continue the conversation in my Calmer Classrooms Facebook Group. It is a private group so you can head over and share in a safe place.

If you feel you would benefit from some real support at the moment and you don’t know where to turn, my daily “and breathe…” emails and private Facebook Group are the perfect place to get that loving support as well as lots of tips and resources to help you get through this challenging time.